How to Keep Sex Casual When Women Want to Be Serious
Last week, I took the woman I’m seeing on a road trip adventure to the Oregon Coast.
We hiked the lush mountains, camped in hidden forests, and swam in the cold, clear ocean of the beautiful Pacific Northwest.
We had a lot of laughter, cool memories, and fun together.
She LOVED our trip.
Apparently, my woman never had a man take her on adventurous, romantic trips before she met me.
She showed her enthusiastic appreciation by FUCKING MY BRAINS OUT:
riding me like a bronco, in our tent, a secluded forest trail, and the backseat of the rental car,
…every single day of the trip.
Apparently, fresh air and vacation is a potent aphrodisiac for her.
She couldn’t go 10 minutes without kissing me, or tugging at my zipper.
I was happy to comply.
As my readers know by now, when a woman feels safe and comfortable with you, she CRAVES your touch and ACHES to please you.
Coach Corey Wayne says it best,
“When women feel HEARD and UNDERSTOOD, their legs open.
When they DON’T, their legs CLOSE.”
It’s that’s simple.
Oregon
If you ever have the opportunity to visit the breath taking Oregon coast, jump at the chance.
It’s more beautiful than I can describe in words.
Sunset Bay, Oregon
The best pictures don’t do it any justice.
Our vacation was perfect.
Off The Hook, For Now
We were together for a week straight, including long stretches in the car, hiking, hanging out on the beach, etc, yet she never brought up relationships and titles, as she has before.
She seems to have accepted reality:
I’m not in any rush to be tied down to a relationship.
She is an attractive woman, with a bubbly, feminine personality, big blue eyes, and Jessica Rabbit tits.
She could EASILY find some guy to simp, and give in to a square “boyfriend- girlfriend” relationship.
Early on, she confessed that she had NEVER asked a man for commitment before, as she had done with me.
Her previous boyfriends had proposed the idea to her first. I shrugged it off then, two months after we met, and I continue to do so.
She understands that it would be difficult for her to find a man equal to me, anywhere.
She must have decided that it was a better deal for her to be casual with an attractive, handsome, charming gentleman, than cuffed up by a lesser man.
In fact, my independence, and resistance to her demands for a relationship only make me MORE desirable in her eyes.
It’s human nature to want what you can’t have.
The NUMBER ONE key to keeping relationships casual, when women want you to commit, is for the women to KNOW you are the BEST option they have on the dating market.
What sense would it make for her to leave a good looking, sweet man, that plans fun trips and pays for nearly everything, who is also smart, interesting, charming, and fun… to go back to swiping weirdos on dating apps, or bitterly posting about “scrotes” on Old Maid forums like Female Dating Strategies?
Pull Her Hair and Hold the Door For Her
Most men don’t understand women.
Most men aren’t fully embodying their masculine essence.
Most men don’t know how to walk the line between charming gentleman, and strong, masculine guy she can’t have her way with.
Musician Chance the Rapper has a perfect line for this in a recent pop song,
“She want a [man] to pull her hair and hold the door for her”
Women have a hard time finding a man that can do both.
I know this from being friends and acquaintances with many men, all throughout my life.
They are either total players with no plan to ever settle down, or whiny beta boys who are unsuccessful with women, and are happy to get any attention from just one.
This communicates neediness and weakness. NOTHING dries a woman’s pussy up faster than weakness.
Women tell me this constantly.
The most common compliments I receive from women are:
“I’ve never met a man like you”
“I wish I’d met you sooner.”
Women look into my eyes and tell me straight out,
“You are the BEST man I’ve ever met”.
Obviously, this is extremely flattering.
I hear it so often, from so many different women, that it must be true.
The charming asshole persona is a mix of my natural personality as an aloof, standoffish introvert, and trial and error over the years.
From my teenage years to now, I wrestled between being too much of either a jerk, or a weak beta who’s spinelessness pushed women away.
This is why a man’s prime doesn’t even BEGIN until his mid-30s.
By now, I’ve made enough mistakes to have figured out what works.
As they say, “An expert is someone who has made all the mistakes in a given field”.
I’m an expert because I’ve fucked up with women for DECADES before I figured it out.
Women meet two types of men: weak simps that will do anything to get laid, and masculine, alpha “fuck boys” they desire.
She craves the arousing, sexy, masculine guy; she is repulsed by the weak, placating simp, but at least he’ll call her back.
They key here is to be a good looking fuck boy….
that can also be really sweet.
If you want to keep sleeping with a woman over months or even years, without committing to being her boyfriend- BE a good boyfriend, without committing to being her boyfriend.
This is a unshakeable reality of life and will serve you well to remember it.
If you want to be highly paid in your profession, be excellent at it. If you want to look like a superhero, train with that level of intensity in the gym.
There are simply no shortcuts or magic pills to get anywhere in this life.
The 2L Strategy: Look Good, Listen Better
Look Good
Yes, I’m in great shape.
For a man over college age, I’m in the top 5% of men in the developed world.
The majority of men in their twenties, 10 years younger than me, don’t have 6 pack abs.
There’s more to it than that, but it certainly helps. (If any men are looking for tips on cutting weight and looking chiseled, drop me a note in the comments and I’ll help you out.)
The woman I am dating sees other women check me out and flirt with me.
That only excites her.
Looking good is a life hack, as I’ve written about extensively before.
You also have to be charming, confident, and have sex appeal.
Men that have good personalities but look sloppy are like a smashed fast food burger combo meal. It might taste good, but you’ll still be disappointed that it doesn’t look like the glistening, delicious burger in the commercials.
A set of broad shoulders, and trim waist is you looking like the revolving, juicy burger on TV.
Listen Better
I alluded to this before with the Corey Wayne quote.
The feeling of being HEARD and UNDERSTOOD, by a man she respects, makes a woman’s pussy tingle.
Women like talking. Talking is the way women share themselves, and connect with each other, and with men they are attracted to.
You can be confident that no other man she knows is listening, really LISTENING, to her when she shares stories of her day, her frustrations, and her emotions.
In Conclusion
If you LOOK BETTER and LISTEN BETTER than 97% of men a woman has ever met in her life, you CANNOT LOSE.
She’ll be calling you non-stop.
She’ll be begging for your time and attention (of which you should give her very little).
She will be bringing you food and fantasizing about pleasuring you.
In fact, this is the greatest gift you can give a woman, because it’s so rare for women to meet men that understand these concepts.
The only downside to this is that women will become so obsessed with you that their constant need for your attentions becomes annoying. More on this later.
Understanding women puts you in control.
When you are the best option a woman has, and she knows it. When she gets turned on just looking at you.
When you excite her emotions and ignite passion in her.
You have the power to have whatever you want.
If that’s a casual relationship (the only relationship Solitary Beast recommends) the woman HAS to comply, or settle for less elsewhere, if she can even find that.
-Solitary Beast